When after a fight or argument, your partner refuses to talk to you or say more than one word at a time, this is the silent treatment. This is a sign of emotional/mental abuse. It can be highly damaging to someone’s confidence and over all mental health.
In a normal relationship, there are arguments and fights, maybe followed by moments of silence. But the two involved in the relationship still talk. They still try to resolve the conflict.
With a partner to utilizes the silent treatment, their end goal is to make you apologize, make you step down, and make them the victim. The goal is to get you to be groveling for forgiveness.
Compromise is Impossible
In any relationship, there has to be compromise in order for it to be healthy. If your partner is unwilling to meet you in the middle most of the time, this should be a huge red flag. If there isn’t compromise, then one person is going to feel like they don’t matter, or that they should just give up on their own thoughts and feelings.
Makes you Feel Worse
If you and your partner are at a party and you are feeling insecure about yourself, your partner should try to help make you feel better. If they tell you to get over it, or that it’s not that big of a deal, then they are not behaving properly for a healthy relationship. It can even be construed as emotional abuse, just as damaging as physical abuse.
In any relationship. the two people should try to build each other up, not break them down. But, it is important to keep in mind that you shouldn’t be putting them up on a pedestal, telling them they can do no wrong.
No Support
Like I said before, your partner is supposed to build you up, and supporting you in your life is a major piece of that. They might not agree with your choices or decisions, but they will still support you - though expect some expression of their thoughts on your choice/decision.
Every healthy relationship is like a dance, you both have to work at it for it to work, and there needs to be a push and a pull.
Dismisses Your Thoughts/Feelings
I feel like this one is pretty self explanatory. I also covered this on the “Makes You Feel Worse” section.
Cannot Have Calm Conversations on “Touchy” Subjects
First, by touchy subjects, I mean anything that would go against their thoughts or actions. So, if you’re upset because your husband just charged $500 on the credit card that you pay for, and you’re struggling financially as it is, then when you try to confront this issue they are just going to find a way not to talk about it.
me @ myself: maybe u should try not to depend so much on validation and attention from others because u really let it dictate your mood and it’s so unhealthy
deadpool is honestly more wholesome than any of the mcu movies
Explain
ok so
Doesn’t straightwash queer characters! this was a big one. (marvel movies have a huge problem with straightwashing*)
Deadpool is canonically pansexual, and the movies reflect this! Reynolds doesn’t shy away at all from Deadpool’s sexual interest in men.
(head injuries bring out deadpool’s romantic sexy feelings it seems. in the first movie, knife to the head = romantic montage with vanessa. in the sequel, fencepost to the head = deadpool sensually trying to go down on Colossus.)
(semi-related, both movies have some cute references to deadpool enjoying being on the receiving end in the bedroom.)
(yeah, it’s canon, Deadpool enjoys being pegged)
Oh hey, a healthy romantic relationship based on mutual respect and love! and with a fully developed female character with personal agency! A love interest who doesn’t just function as a plot device.
POLAR OPPOSITE OF TOXIC MASCULINITY. This really shines through in their marketing
(yes that is deadpool in heels dancing to celine dion)
Diverse casting! Characters who are poc just because poc exist!
Hey look, a cute lesbian couple treated with respect and one of them’s asian!
Holy crap i don’t say this enough but i loveDomino. What a badass. Sexy-but-not-sexualized black female action hero who is probably the coolest person in the movie.
Deadpool 2 took a run-of-the-mill white character design and made her interesting!
Her trademark eye patch is now vitiligo! She has awesome natural hair. And look, body hair exists! On a person who is a woman! Which shouldn’t be unusual, but here we are. Also, she’s fun
Portrayed by the talented Zazie Beetz. Did I mention how much i love this character?
Oh look, another much improved character design!
We’ve got your humdrum blondie cleft-chin stereotype replaced with a heavyset maori teen actor (Julian Dennison, who incidentally was in Taika Waititi’s indie movie Hunt for the Wilderpeople).
Overall themes: The movies have a lot of dirty humor and innuendo. But the overall takeaway is actually pretty sentimental. The Deadpool 2 themes in particular gets to me:
Not repeating the mistakes of the previous generation. “Kids give us a chance of being better than we used to be.”
The loss and recovery of family. Accepting friendship in the midst of tragedy. See also: Cable’s story arc.
Letting go of loss and bitterness to try to save a child who’s been abandoned by the world.
I’m honestly so excited about the choices the director & producers have been making for this franchise. They’re setting the narrative standard for modern superhero films. Can’t wait to see what the next movie has in store.
So wait, why is “straightwashing” bad but blackwashing Domino good?
maybe…if we think really…really hard about it…we could come up with a reason why those two things…are not the same…
hi this (and all of x-men) but especially this film has such a powerful “conversion therapy is fucking awful and inherently violent and abusive” underlying theme
By the description of him driving the moneylenders from the temple, we can also tell that he fit inside the temple, which gives us an upper bound as well as a lower bound on his size.
It’s been said that Jesus Christ was larger than a baby but smaller than a temple
last night one of my campers was like “well i lost one of my shoes in the swamp today” and i said “oh no!” and she shrugged and said “its ok. shoes are just objects” and damn. they really are
today a completely different camper with scratches all over her legs was like “every step hurts me” and i was like “oh that sucks!” and she shrugged and said “well, you know, pain is a temporary emotion”
the next gen have achieved either peak buddhism or peak nihilism
